Originally Posted by
Freepressright
No, the problem is that far too many people undervalue sex, and many don't know what good sex is because they've never had it. Once you find it, there is no going back from it.
I would go to the ends of the earth to fix a sexual dysfunction issue, because a healthy sex life is important, essential rather, to a healthy marriage or relationship. If you can have a rocking sex life, it provides a wide range of benefits beyond just the sex. To play the "that's shallow" card is utter bullshit.
I love my girlfriend. We connect on far more than just our sexuality, but we're so much alike in it and we both have been through partners who went stale on us and REFUSED, yes REFUSED to do anything about it. We suffered for years at the behest of a partner who lost interest and REFUSED to search for a solution.
I was always the bad guy with my wife when I'd raise the issue of her loss of interest. She was never willing to honestly and openly discuss it. It became a major issue that pitted us against each other in the end. My girlfriend prior to that was a sex kitten, until domestication, and then she died on the vine in that sense.
I'd have been able to live with it much more easily had they given a flying fuck enough to look into what was wrong instead of dismissing it and acting like it was something I just had to live with. And don't think I didn't go to the ends of the earth in search of solutions aside from them taking initiative. I got tired of the rejection, and it ended the relationships.
Sex is incredibly important to my girlfriend, and if that means I have to have a Viagra infusion pump installed in my ass to keep my dick working to keep her happy, it's worth it. She has pledged the same to me.
If one of us falls ill and we're physically unable, that's something entirely different. But we're at least willing, for each other, to search hard for solutions.
/END RANT