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    Any advice for performance anxiety?

    theres a girl ive been seeing lately and things are getting more intimate. i havent had sex/head in like almost 3 years so im quite nervous in this comprimised state, i used to be nervous even before pfs so this may be tricky.

    any advice guys? before i used to just try to think in the moment and suck on her tits/foreplay for like an hour to just get in the zone then id stick my dick in her, but idk i feel way different nowadays.

    i cant do cialus/viagra they make me feel bad, bad sides

    all advice is welcome

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    Do some deep breathing and a cold shower before visiting her and go for it. There is nothing to fear. Also, don’t skip your herb for the day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aztec View Post
    Do some deep breathing and a cold shower before visiting her and go for it. There is nothing to fear. Also, don’t skip your herb for the day.
    thanks bro, i appreciate it. ive had several situations that resulted in being limp and its really one of the worst feelings. also welcome to the forum

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    If I'm really worried, I do a pump that day and I doubled up on Tribulus/Longjack before the date. I went two rounds with a three minute break in between and realized I had nothing to be scared about.

    Might be worth giving a shot.

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    Any advice for performance anxiety?

    Here comes a long detailed answer cause I love my brain and how it just fires out ideas in the night.

    Pump session, cold shower, phenibut to chill out + herb combinations at higher doses..The days I have sex I play with it. I usually take a way bigger than usual dose of pine pollen, take tonkgat, tribulus, Horny goat weed etc. (basically what Mal said)

    I do that but also take low dose Viagra just to be 120% sure, even if I feel good...I’ve had sex the next day after though and based on how the drug works it’s out the system by then so that’s all me. I know you can’t take PDE5’s though ..

    It’s deff a mind & relaxation thing too.
    foreplay is a must, you have to really zero in on pleasing the girl & take focus off of you. It all works out.. I notice for me actual penetration is at most like 5-7 minutes, it’s just that all the other things makes it seem like an hour..

    Try not to worry...Women don’t think or perceive things like us at all, I don’t mean it in a bad way.. they’re just different than us,you have to remember that too. It’s more about the whole experience and living in the moment for them.The way they look at sex is different than us.

    & as far as performance, don’t worry about that too, a lot of the times how much she enjoys sex is not based on physical things like size or how rock hard you are, it’s all on your vibe with it and how high her interest level is in you... basically you’re acting like a man through it all with confidence and she’s digging you..
    There are guys who pack crazy wood & even fuck well that can’t rock a girls world like a guy whose equipment or even fuck game isn’t on his level cause she digs him more for whatever reason, maybe his game is better, or makes her feel like woman, or timing, or the mood..theres just so many factors to it, it’s not clear cut like how we think . It’s why they so damn complicated lol.

    Ofcourse I wish I had a foot long rod like a pornstar though, wouldn’t hurt..

    Us guys always fall into the thing where we project our Male thinking patterns onto women and assume that they are thinking and experiencing things like us males do.They are wired different. A lot of the shit we get concerned about, they don’t care about.. the way a man loves vs the way a woman loves is two different things (Patrice O Neal)..again I’m generalizing, but that’s my experience for the most part.. I hate to sound like a know it all cause I’m younger than you & I really don’t known shit lol

    You got it..



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    @RickTheRuler yo thank you bro, really appreciate everything you wrote out, i did all those things, waiting for her to come over. i double dosed schisandra and took a half dose of rhodiola. ill definitely focus on foreplay/pleasing her.

    and that is sooo true, we do tend to project our masculine minds onto them thinking they perceive the situation in the same way which they totally dont. its an entire process for them, its the vibe/atmosphere for them, i havent dated/courted a girl in so long im only just realizing that again.

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    update guys, at the start i was concerned about erection quality/not being hard enough to maintain an erection for a condom (i experienced that in the past) she didnt want to give me head, so for a few days she'd just jack me off to completion which went well

    then after that, i fucked her with no condom for maybe 3 pumps and pulled out, didnt last long (maybe like 5-10 seconds) but it was a confidence booster.

    a few days after that i started fucking her with condoms, and i kept doing it.

    i finally broke my performance anxiety, im really pleased and broke my dry spell of like 3 years. everyones advice in this thread helped a lot. she is a gorgeous girl, but unfortunately shes left the country today. she was only here for a short time, so im heartbroken. id say the biggest thing that helped me was foreplay and being comfortable with her. focusing on foreplay is crucial and the comfort factor is a must. a girl who doesnt put much pressure on you is the best

    (no viagra, or cialus was used in this. only supplements i was using was rhodiola, schisandra) i noticed my erection quality went wayy up when i stopped using digestive enzymes, there must be something in those that mess with my sex drive/EQ

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxLUK View Post
    update guys, at the start i was concerned about erection quality/not being hard enough to maintain an erection for a condom (i experienced that in the past) she didnt want to give me head, so for a few days she'd just jack me off to completion which went well

    then after that, i fucked her with no condom for maybe 3 pumps and pulled out, didnt last long (maybe like 5-10 seconds) but it was a confidence booster.

    a few days after that i started fucking her with condoms, and i kept doing it.

    i finally broke my performance anxiety, im really pleased and broke my dry spell of like 3 years. everyones advice in this thread helped a lot. she is a gorgeous girl, but unfortunately shes left the country today. she was only here for a short time, so im heartbroken. id say the biggest thing that helped me was foreplay and being comfortable with her. focusing on foreplay is crucial and the comfort factor is a must. a girl who doesnt put much pressure on you is the best

    (no viagra, or cialus was used in this. only supplements i was using was rhodiola, schisandra) i noticed my erection quality went wayy up when i stopped using digestive enzymes, there must be something in those that mess with my sex drive/EQ
    Good on you man.

    The mind fuck is the hardest part to break. Once you've reclaimed that, you have nothing to worry about.

    Keep pushing.
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    Any advice for performance anxiety?

    Congratulations brother
    Someone once asked a man how he was. He replied, “I’m going through hell!” Said his friend: “Well, keep on going. That is no place to stop!”

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    Nicely done!

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