Older Dudes / Rant

[markam]

I actually verbalize when people are like that. I'll say things, as uncomfortable as they may be-but true, "wow, that's pretty judgmental, did you get a new appointment I don't know about?" Or, "I don't recall asking your opinion, when I want it I will ask though, thank you." Those statements if you are polite about it are just being assertive and totally within your rights to ask or say. The mother in law one day actually asked me how much fish oil I took, I told her then she ripped on me for spending so much money lmfffffffao! so calmly, I asked her what she thought was a better use of cash, spending $14 on a bottle of wine every day, or $25/month on fish oil for my health. She didn't answer, so I pushed and said if you want to talk to me about my life and health, and preach how I should be acting, not that you have the right to do so cause you're not my mother and even my mother knows better at my age lol, you had better first better ask to see if your opinion is welcomed. I'm sorry but I won't be told how to eat by someone who spends 20x what I do on fish oil per week on booze. In the future I'd rather not discuss my health, thank you. so,,,,, we smile when she comes over, I go in the garage lol, and then we smile when she leaves. A person who wants to dictate to me is not worth having in my life. she's my wife's mother and that's it. Stand up for wwho you are, what you believe, tell others to shut the fuck up (in so many words) and mind their own business. No need to be around people like that, rid your life of them.

I reckon this is something that anyone that lifts will have to deal with, sooner or later.

The cost of fish oil when they're spending £££ on booze is a familiar one, lucky they don't know what else you're buying

[olddawg]

lol, If I get much bigger they will begin asking I suspect, and I'll tell them. Remember, I don't care what they think. If the funny side of me comes out I'll say something like sure I inject steroids but that ain't the half of it, you know when me and your daughter are having sex, right after I take my dick out of her mouth I like her thumb up my ass......any other personal info you want to touch? lol Oh man, I could go on forever, you know it's only in the last year or so I've been able to do this (no the thumb up the ass). I think for me it's that I am happy who I am and done trying to be what others' want me to be. It was a revelation really. I'm not rude about it unless they take it there, then, I pull out the big guns and very rarely can someone out funny me when I'm on. it makes for very few Christmas presents the following years but meh...that's life.

[burlyman30]

^^^ this struck my funny bone. Wife is in the car with me trying to figure out what's so dang funny.

On Markam's point, firstly, yeah I know I'm not "old", but on a forum with a lot of 20somethings with taut abs, I'm still one of the older guys. I'm just glad you and Sperwer are here to make me feel younger! Haha.

On the point about others opinions... people get jealous that you have done what they haven't and it's easier for them to criticize or discredit you than to look at their own failings. Most if the time I just ignore the little subtle comments. If they become rude, I just let them know the only difference between me and them is that I'm actually willing to put the work in to do something about my physical condition. All the while, I'm smiling like a cheshire cat. Then they get mad and either stomp off or they get really quiet. Most people who know me know better than to be confrontive. They learn real quick not to bring a knife to a gun fight.

[markam]

One can always rely on Oldawg to elevate things to a whole other level. Maybe elevate is the wrong word

[JM1000]

Classic reaction lol my familly/friends when they see the protein tubs and all... just want to say mind your own fkn business

[olddawg]

I've only got say 20-30 years left max! Have to make the best of it, I'm the same too I think you said it mark, I don't want to carry on once my body is spent. Wife and kids all know that I want them to wheel me to the edge of the grand canyon or something like that. they don't have to push me, I'll take the brake off myself but one last thrill, and out with a bang. maybe 3-4 of us can all go over together, we'll be old and tired, but muscular lol, 'cept for Ippy he'll be wearin a loose medium, still 165lbs

[Cdsnuts]

It all comes down to insecurity. For some reason, alot of people feel threatened by someone else's success, whether it be financially, getting in shape, etc. They project their own insecurities on to the people who are accomplishing what they aren't....or even better....they can't. Small mindedness in action here. Not even worth your time worrying about it. If they would put some effort into themselves and stop worrying about what other people are doing, maybe they'd be able to get shit done in their own lives.

[weekend]

I think you're selling yourself short old dawg! No one that funny only has that long left. It's time to go when you can't make jokes and you aren't muscular anymore! Haha

[JM1000]

That is if Ippy survives his next run hehe

[burlyman30]

It all comes down to insecurity. For some reason, alot of people feel threatened by someone else's success, whether it be financially, getting in shape, etc. They project their own insecurities on to the people who are accomplishing what they aren't....or even better....they can't. Small mindedness in action here. Not even worth your time worrying about it. If they would put some effort into themselves and stop worrying about what other people are doing, maybe they'd be able to get shit done in their own lives.

Exactly. I've dealt with this both on the physical side and on the financial side. So many people discouraged me from starting my own business and then didn't want to be around me once I did well with it. I don't need those types of people in my life. Nobody does.