You are too clever and intelligent to make such a big move spontaneously, you make plans- and better you plan things, more likely to have desired outcome.
At some point in future you will become more decisive, and you will "dig" harder and work harder towards your goals, when that happens, you will become unstoppable.
And if you continue to train and work on your physique- you will be irresistible to women- for them things will happen spontaneously- but not for you...