update guys, at the start i was concerned about erection quality/not being hard enough to maintain an erection for a condom (i experienced that in the past) she didnt want to give me head, so for a few days she'd just jack me off to completion which went well

then after that, i fucked her with no condom for maybe 3 pumps and pulled out, didnt last long (maybe like 5-10 seconds) but it was a confidence booster.

a few days after that i started fucking her with condoms, and i kept doing it.

i finally broke my performance anxiety, im really pleased and broke my dry spell of like 3 years. everyones advice in this thread helped a lot. she is a gorgeous girl, but unfortunately shes left the country today. she was only here for a short time, so im heartbroken. id say the biggest thing that helped me was foreplay and being comfortable with her. focusing on foreplay is crucial and the comfort factor is a must. a girl who doesnt put much pressure on you is the best

(no viagra, or cialus was used in this. only supplements i was using was rhodiola, schisandra) i noticed my erection quality went wayy up when i stopped using digestive enzymes, there must be something in those that mess with my sex drive/EQ